http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693 I’m having an affair, with my husband. Now that may not sound very exciting, but trust me… it is. After fifteen years of man-cub being the center of this family and my universe, it is now time to shift back to me… and us as a couple. Fifteen years is a very long time to have everything revolve around one person. I would be lying if I said it wasn’t wonderful to give some of that energy back to my relationships and myself for a change.   As our children grow older, not only do they not need us as much, but they don’t want us around as much. My husband and I took this cue from man-cub early last year and ran with it. We’ll run errands together while man-cub stays home (his choice.) We’ll see a movie together, go wine tasting and just have nice dinners alone sometimes. We talk about things other than our son (gasp!) and spend time re-connecting.   Even man-cub’s recent birthday party was actually a lot of fun. My husband and I dragged games and movies into our bedroom for the evening while the kids had free reign over the living room. We had our own little pizza and soda (no wine while on kid watch) and just holed up in our room together like teenagers. It was wonderful.   I’ve been exploring questions like: -What do I like? -What do I want? -Where do I want to go? -What makes me happy?   All wonderful things to ponder and I feel spoiled to be able to indulge myself. My husband is in the same space. Once he was mostly a father/provider running around and taking care of everything. Now he can relax, play games, drink wine and enjoy life a little more. I must say… This man is even more romantic and fun than the father of my son! Heheh. I’m having an affair, with my husband. Now that may not sound very exciting, but trust me… it is. After fifteen years of man-cub being the center of this family and my universe, it is now time to shift back to me… and us as a couple. Fifteen years is a very long time to have everything revolve around one person. I would be lying if I said it wasn’t wonderful to give some of that energy back to my relationships and myself for a change.   As our children grow older, not only do they not need us as much, but they don’t want us around as much. My husband and I took this cue from man-cub early last year and ran with it. We’ll run errands together while man-cub stays home (his choice.) We’ll see a movie together, go wine tasting and just have nice dinners alone sometimes. We talk about things other than our son (gasp!) and spend time re-connecting.   Even man-cub’s recent birthday party was actually a lot of fun. My husband and I dragged games and movies into our bedroom for the evening while the kids had free reign over the living room. We had our own little pizza and soda (no wine while on kid watch) and just holed up in our room together like teenagers. It was wonderful.   I’ve been exploring questions like: -What do I like? -What do I want? -Where do I want to go? -What makes me happy?   All wonderful things to ponder and I feel spoiled to be able to indulge myself. My husband is in the same space. Once he was mostly a father/provider running around and taking care of everything. Now he can relax, play games, drink wine and enjoy life a little more. I must say… This man is even more romantic and fun than the father of my son! Heheh. en-us Good for you for taking time out for you and your relationship with your husband.  I'll probably be 55 before that happens.  :-)  But that's OK.  Hopefully, my kids will keep me young and I'll still feel 39 (again) when my turn rolls around. http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83122 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83122 Good for you for taking time out for you and your relationship with your husband.  I'll probably be 55 before that happens.  :-)  But that's OK.  Hopefully, my kids will keep me young and I'll still feel 39 (again) when my turn rolls around. That's one of the benefits of having my only child so young (I was 21 when he was born.) I'll only be 39 when he goes off to college! Whoo hoo!!! I agree with you about kids keeping you young for sure. There's a lot to be said about waiting as well. If we would have waited, I don't think I'd be sharing 1 bathroom with two guys in our little house. Hahaha. http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83123 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83123 That's one of the benefits of having my only child so young (I was 21 when he was born.) I'll only be 39 when he goes off to college! Whoo hoo!!! I agree with you about kids keeping you young for sure. There's a lot to be said about waiting as well. If we would have waited, I don't think I'd be sharing 1 bathroom with two guys in our little house. Hahaha. Hope for the rest of us who are still limited to the occassional Date Night! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83154 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83154 Hope for the rest of us who are still limited to the occassional Date Night! i really want to be one of those elderly couples who hold hands while walking in the park.  http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83163 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83163 i really want to be one of those elderly couples who hold hands while walking in the park.  It WILL happen for you, I promise!!! There's light at the end of the long baby road. http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83165 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83165 It WILL happen for you, I promise!!! There's light at the end of the long baby road. This is a great blog! Thanks for giving hope to those of us who feel that all our conversations with our husbands have to do with daycare, money, trips to Target, and potty training. I'm glad you are having so much fun with your husband. :) http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83222 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83222 This is a great blog! Thanks for giving hope to those of us who feel that all our conversations with our husbands have to do with daycare, money, trips to Target, and potty training. I'm glad you are having so much fun with your husband. :) Glad you liked it! It really doesn't last forever (all the baby talk) though I know how much it can feel that way at the time. Romance luckily is a hearty weed that can take root and re-bloom! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83224 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/creatress/9693/#c_83224 Glad you liked it! It really doesn't last forever (all the baby talk) though I know how much it can feel that way at the time. Romance luckily is a hearty weed that can take root and re-bloom!