LIving a Healthier Lifestyle - VictoriaVJ's Blog

LIving a Healthier Lifestyle - VictoriaVJ's Blog - SacMomsClub.com http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ My everyday challenges with weight loss and progress. Things I do with my children everyday. My everyday challenges with weight loss and progress. Things I do with my children everyday. en-us Dealing with Tantrums and marriage http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10439 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10439 My almost 3 1/2 year old daughter was diagnosed with PDD a couple of months ago. That was a big change and eye opening for all of us. We have then changed her diet and are giving her supplements, she now goes to school 3 hours a day for five days with other children on the autism spectrum. Now my thing is that when she is with others she listens and does eveything she is supposed to. With me she's a different child, she has tantrums from HELL and sometimes they last a couple of hours. It is hard for her to let us know what is wrong b/c she also has a speech delay, so kicking, screaming and crying are her ways of communicating that something is wrong. I am completely overwhelmed and at times feel like such a failure because my little angel is the way she is.  Are there any other parents that feel the same way? Am I just being a big baby and not dealing with this the right way? My hubby and I sometimes don't see eye to eye on how she needs to be disciplined. He is a bit more stearn with her than I am. I will admit that sometimes I will give in to her because the screaming does get to me and I am the one that's with her all day long. I feel this has put a bit of a strain on our marriage. If anyone out there has any thought or ideas how to deal with this or if you are experiencing something similar I would love to hear from you.  Thanks in advance for your time. What a feeling! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10024 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10024 Since I've lost 40 pounds and 24 inches off my body, I feel Fantastic! I bought a new hip pair of jeans today and they were too big. I didn't get the smaller size because I thought they wouldn't fit, was I wrong. It's funny how I'm still the same person inside and out ( minus a few pounds) yet people are complementing me left and right. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear how good I look but I personally haven't changed. But I do feel great and it makes me feel kind of younger. Sometimes I wonder why I waited so long to get to this healthy weight that I am now. It didn't take me long to get here, yet I was so unmotivated before and unhappy on how I looked yet I didn't do anything about it all I did was complain to myself and my husband. So for those of you that are out there and are unhappy about how you look, do something about it. Don't wait till you hit rock bottom and start doing something about it because it gets harder as time passes by. Nothing is easy to do, it may be simple but start doing something about it today. If you want to lose weight or start working out, ask a friend or family member to do it with you. Sometimes it's easier if you do something with someone else because you'll have each other for support and encouragement. That's what I did, my mother and I decided to lose weight together and we are doing it. Incredible!!!! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10002 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/10002 Wow, my mom reached her 50lb lost and I now have lost a total of 40 and 24 inches. How incredible is that. This is absolutely awesome for the both of us. What a way to start the year and continue this wonderful journey on becoming healthier. I remember when we first started the weight loss program on January 13 and thought to myself this is absolutely impossible. How am I going to manage to lose all this weight and be able to keep it off. For my mother it was unthinkable as well because she had double the amount of weight to lose than me. But one thing that she did know was that it was time to end this obesity of hers once and for all and she was determined to do with great spirit. We both cheer each other on and support one another when some days are tough and some weeks are unthinkable. We have managed to survive several holidays, birthdays and get togethers. For us is very difficult this time of year because it seems to be birthday season in our household. April and May are just filled with birthdays  just about every weekend. But we know what the end result is going to be for the both of us, and that is a healthier person inside and out. Almost There http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9990 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9990 I am almost to my goal weight, I have about 6 more pounds to lose and I will have reached something I thought was unreachable. I feel great, elated and I'm just in awe. I will treat myself to a new wardrobe and a day at the spa/salon. I think in the past if I would have lost weight I would have rewarded myself with a nice meal. Not anymore, it's ok to indulge once in a great while or treat yourself to something scrumptious but if you do this daily or weekly your health will start going south.  I have learned that food doesn't have to take over your life. You have to take control of what is eaten everyday and make the right choices. My husband decided that it was time to lose some extra weight that he had gained over the past few years. He doesn't have very much to lose, but he has made the commitment to start living healthier and make better choices. And that's what it all comes down to, making better and healthier choices in the foods that we eat everyday. Even my husband is doing it too! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9978 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9978 My husband is now doing the weight loss program my mom and I are on. Today is his second day and so far so good. It makes me happy that he decided to go on the program that way I can get a male perspective on it. He doesn't need to lose much but his waistline seemed to have grown the past few years. He wants to lose about 20 pounds.  That is fantastic! He is very muscular because he has lifted weights since he was 16 so to some he may not look like he needs to lose weight. Of course his pants are telling him a different story. I will keep you posted on his progress and show you the before and after pics once he has reached his goal. He has seen such a difference in my confidence and my appearance that he couldn't resist to do something for himself and that is to start living healthier. HELP in Potty Training http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9967 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9967 My daughter recently turned 3 and I want to start potty training her. She isn't really showing any interest in it but she sometimes takes her pull up off because it bothers her. Does anyone have any tips on how I can do this? My son potty trained one week after he turned 3 and he didn't even pee at night. Awesome, I guess I got lucky with him. We started training today and she went 3 1/2 hours without having any accidents, but that didn't last long because she had 2 accidents after that. I keep taking her to the potty every 15 to 30 minutes but she doesn't seem to sit long enough for her to actually want to go or do something. I am reading a potty book every time we go, I have even used the bathroom while she's in there so she can hear and see whats supposed to happen. But nothing! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. BTW my daughter has a speech delay and I'm not sure if this would have any effect on the potty training. She knows how to say poop and stinky. Resisting Good Food http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9965 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9965 This past weekend was really hard for me. We had Easter Day at our house, not because I don't enjoy this holiday but because of all of the food. We started the day with Easter breakfast after church. I made french toast with strawberries and thick cut bacon, syrup and whipped cream optional. There was coffee, OJ and champagne. Wow it sounds really yummy and I didn't have one bite of anything. I stuck with my weight loss program food, so did my mom. Was it hard and difficult? Very much so. But I've learned that food doesn't have to be the center of any gathering or celebration. Just being among loved ones is fulfilling enough. My family is very supportive that they know and understand the sacrifices my mom and I are making to lose weight. Now dinner was zucchini gratin, salad, bread, roasted veggies, roast and wine. Yumm O!!! My mother and I had salad with meat slices on top, nothing else not even wine. Let me tell you something I have not come this far to ruin all of my hard work. I am hoping to reach my goal by my birthday at the end of the month. And if that doesn't happen, oh well what's a couple more weeks and I start  transitioning out of the program. What does this mean? It means I will gradually start  incorporating foods that have not been part of my program. Worth every week that we have committed. I'm not very big on candy, so the candy that the kids had yesterday in their baskets didn't tempt me at all. What I wanted really bad was a glass of wine. I'm not a big drinker but wine with dinner is really good. But my birthday will soon arrive and that will be my treat, one glass of extremely good red wine. So if you have goals in mind about losing weight, don't let food get in your way. Overcome it by being strong and keeping busy so you won't think too much about it. Some may think that it's easier said than done, but I've been there and I am doing IT! Ultimate Decision http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9960 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9960 Besides wanting to lose weight and be healthy again my ultimate decision was when nothing in my closet was fitting. I mean nothing. I was wearing my pregnancy pants that had elastic that could be adjusted as the belly starts getting bigger and bigger. The problem with me is that I was no longer pregnant. After giving birth to my second child I did lose some of the weight I had gained. She was breastfed until she was about 15 months old and then I got pregnant again. Of course I had to stop breastfeeding because not only was the pregnancy draining me out of energy but feeding a 15 month old was draining me as well.  Naturally I started gaining weight due to the pregnancy but to my dismay at 12 weeks when I went to the doctor to be checked out the doctor tells me that my pregnancy wasn't viable. I laid there empty, looking at my baby in the monitor and it wasn't moving. We weren't hearing the heartbeat. I could not believe what he was telling me. I had no ill symptoms, I was feeling fine. My husband and I looked at each other and tears filled both our eyes. After getting a second opinion the next day it was confirmed, the baby's heartbeat had stopped. Because of this I had to have a D and C. This is a procedure where they take the baby out of you. So after almost three months of being pregnant, I had lost my baby but was left with all the weight you normally gain.  I knew that I needed to get back into my pre-pre-pregnancy size because I no longer wanted to wear the pants with the elastic or the velour pants you just pull on and feel comfortable or even the over sized t-shirts. I had lost my sex appeal because the weight was taking over my body. Looking back  I barely have any photos with me and my children because I'm usually the one taking the picture but when a picture was taken of me with them I usually ended up erasing it because I looked BIG.  What do most of us do for a New Year's resolution? Is to want to lose weight. And  my mother and I have accomplished that. We have stuck with our program and have dedicated ourselves to lose the weight and be healthy once more. So no matter what others say to you, it is up to you to decide what you want to do. You in fact have to make the ultimate decision if you want to change the way you look. Don't let food take over your body, take control and feel alive again. It's never too late http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9956 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9956 Great day today considering the weather seems to be a little wacky. Some of you may have read that my mother is also on the same weight loss program as I am. I spoke with her today and she was so excited because she had not seen one of her sisters for almost three months and her sister was so amazed at how much weight she had lost. My mother is the oldest of 9, so her sisters look up to her. My mother started gaining weight after having kids, just like most mother. She has tried so many "diets" and has yo-yo so many times, that after a while I think she just gave up hope and pretty much settled how she was going to be. She pretty much changed her attitude after seeing how much weight my health coach had lost and seeing other success stories and how people that were much older than her had succeeded. After seeing and reading about these other people that have struggled with their weight she made a commitment that she wanted to be a success story as well. I am happy and proud to be her health coach and help her reach her goal. She was discouraged at the beginning because in order to be considered healthy at her age and height, she needed to lose almost 100 pounds. That just seemed like a HUGE number that was unreachable. But she has taken it one day at a time and after 12 weeks she is halfway there. You see this is not a diet, this is program to help you lose weight and be healthy.  So if you've given up hope, you are not alone most of us have at one point in our lives. But there is still a chance to be healthy and happy again. You don't have to settle, you are the only one that can do something about it. And if you need help, I can help you just like I'm helping my mom whom I love and respect dearly. 10 more pounds to my GOAL!!!! http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9953 http://www.sacmomsclub.com/home/Blog/VictoriaVJ/9953 How exciting is this, I have 10 more pounds to reach my goal. This morning was my weigh in and I had lost 1 more pound since yesterday so all together for a 7 day week is a 2 pound loss. I see myself in the mirror and everyday and can not believe that it's me. I actually have a waistline. I mean I've always had a waistline but it was never "defined".  I am so looking forward to summer to be able to wear comfortable clothes, shorts, dresses and even a swimsuit. I wore a swimsuit before but was always looking for shorts to wear over it, not this time. I feel like a whole new person I have more energy and I'm feeling a bit more confident about myself. I love it when my son tells me I'm pretty and that I look perfect.  Sometimes children can be a bit too honest, before he would say that I had a big tummy and would always poke at it. I know he didn't say that to be mean but it did hurt my feelings. Or my niece would say, why was I bigger than her mommy (my sister) if I was younger than her. She was associating age with size, so therefore if her mommy was older than me why was she smaller in size. Needless to say I don't hear comments like that from either my child or my niece. It really feels great to be me and be a health coach. So are you ready to make a change in your life? Do you know someone that wants to make a change in life but don't know where to start? Send them to me. Visit <a href="http://www.powerlosers.com">www.powerlosers.com</a> for more success stories or email me @ <a href="mailto:victoria_valle@yahoo.com">victoria_valle@yahoo.com</a>