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When do you make time for yourself?
Yesterday I met a couple of moms from this site at Starbucks in Davis. We had a great time visiting and getting to know each other. One of the topics we discussed was, "When do you make time for yourself?"
We all agreed that open communication with your spouse or significant other was the first step in finding alone time. As a mom, we need to help them understand that just because we can meet other moms for coffee, or go for a walk or run, we still have our kid(s) with us. Alone time is very difficult to make with out help. I continually struggle with asking my husband for help with the kids. So I just asked him now if he would watch the kids tomorrow morning, so I could go for a run, alone. His answer was, " Yes, of course." Now, I just need to ask him for help more often. What are some ways you make time for yourself? 4 comments from 4 users
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posted by
caligirliam
on Feb 16, 2008 at 12:33 PM
My boyfriend is really good about telling me "go take some time for yourself"...I am my own worst enemy because I always feel guilty. My daughter (5) and my youngest son (8) are both VERY much Mommy's "kids"....I am sure it has to do with the fact that their father lives in Italy and they see him for about 10 days a year so they are pretty much always with me. It has been like this for several years now...My daughter doesn't even remember living with her Dad...he left for Italy when she just turned 1. My son remembers bits and pieces but he was just 4 so it is somewhat a blur. They are both really attached to my boyfriend as well and he is wonderful with them...but it still seems like they have a "cow" if I even try to go to WalMart or Target by myself. It is utter chaos when we try to go on a "date" together...They always groan about it. It is frustrating and adds to my guilt. I am the first one to know that in order to be a better Mom I need to have "me" time....I just don't know what I can do to help them understand. I am hoping that it will get a bit better when my daughter starts Kindergarten in the Fall. Any ideas??? :') Jen~
posted by
hmoeckli
on Feb 18, 2008 at 08:13 PM
This website is a big part of my alone time. Most evenings my husband gets my daughter to bed, and I spend 20-30 minutes blogging, reading, whatever. It's great because I get a chance to hear about other mother's lives. I don't work with many mothers of young children at my school, and I can feel rather isolated.Also, exercising is great alone time for me. If I am feeling that running outside is a little too quiet, I go to my apartment complex's gym and watch some reality tv. No one is there to complain. It's wonderful. posted by
creatress
on Feb 19, 2008 at 10:39 AM
STARBUCKS. Hahaha. Nah really. Now that my son is older, it's MUCH easier. I'm also much more aware and concious of it then I was when he was younger. I know when I'm relaxed and happy, I'm a better mother, wife, worker. I'm more patient and understanding when I have breaks. Most of my breaks are when he's at school and Daddy's at work. Though I do take some time (maybe once a month) for other times. posted by
lenadawkins
on Feb 22, 2008 at 02:30 AM
i STILL DONTÂ understand how could I miss you all there at starbucks?I was so wanting to be part of it and enjoy the company and conversation... I am in Hawaii and enjoy being away from household at least. just ocean, sea, hikes, jungles and kids....
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