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An excellent read for those grieving the loss of a child My first Mother's Day without my son A Mother's Greatest Loss April 08 May 08 June 08 July 08 August 08 September 08 October 08 November 08 
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An excellent read for those grieving the loss of a child
Well, I survived my first Mother's Day as a bereaved mother. It was a tearful day but I made it through and tried my best to focus on what I have left rather than what I have lost. I chose not to go to church - just couldn't bear to see all those moms with their children. Intact families still jab me in a very tender spot. I read a very good book over the weekend. It's called Comfort - A Journey Through Grief and is written by Ann Hood. Ann Hood is a writer based in Providence, RI. She recently wrote a very good novel called The Knitting Circle about a mother who lost her only daughter and took up knitting when she could neither read nor write because of her grief. That book was fiction, though very autobiographical. Comfort, her new book, is non-fiction and tells her story of losing Grace, her 5 year old daughter to a strep infection. One spring morning Grace was fine and 36 hours she was dead. If you are a bereaved parent or know one you are trying to support, I highly recommend this book.
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posted by
Mama26
on May 13, 2008 at 12:02 AM
posted by
ldickerson
on May 13, 2008 at 10:36 AM
Good for you being there for your grandmother. I have learned going through this that losing a child is horrible, regardless if the child is 5 days, 5 years, 15 years or 51 years. I'm sure your grandmother is hurting deeply. And I also feel sure you and your children are the bright spots in her life. I applaud you for finding time for her in spite of your own grief.
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First of all let me say I'm so so sorry for the loss of your son. I cant even begin to fathom the pain of losing a child, and i admire your courage. I hope writing and talking and sharing your journey with others brings some comfort to you as well.
This was my first mother's day with out my mom, and it was very sad at times. As crushed as i am, i'm trying my best to be supportive as much as i can to my grandmother. Even though my mom was 51, and my grandma is 90, i know that a parent should never have to see their child go first no matter how old the "child" is. We are both in so much pain, and just when my own grief seems insurmountable i think of what its like to be in her shoes, losing a daughter, then it feels like anything i could or do say to her seems so inadequate."At least we were blessed enough to have her in our lives for the time we did". I'm trying to convince myself as well. But at least she knows i'm there and i hope that helps a little.
Good luck to you friend, my heart goes out to you.