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Remember all the dances back in high school that you needed a date for- homecoming, junior prom, senior ball, sadie hawkins?  I've recently become aware of a very common, almost expected practice among high school kids called "asking cute".  Instead of just having the pressure of asking someone to be your date for the dance, now kids are expected to ask in a really cute, creative, and interesting way.   Like a boy who puts a dozen roses on a girl's car, then puts another dozen roses in her locker with a note asking her to the homecoming dance.  Or the girl who sends a boy on a mini scavenger hunt around the school, finding note after note, until he finally ends up on the football field where she and her friends are holding up a huge sign asking him to the prom.  A friend of mine helped her son's girlfriend decorate his room with balloons, streamers, and a cake that said, "Will you?" on it. 

 A high school teacher I talked to said that some kids won't agree to go to the dance unless they are "asked cute".  Are you kidding me??  As a stepmom of a 14 year old who will be in high school next year, I'm a little concerned.  Sure, it's cute and adorable, but for every single date dance?  Not only does the kid feel anxiety about asking a girl to a dance, but now he has to come up with some brilliant, creative, original way to do it, or else he might get rejected.  Please.

My husband also has an opinion about this.  He said that if a girl says  no because she wasn't "asked cute", then she's not worth going to the dance with anyway.  He thinks it's a waste of money, and is just added pressure on the kids to "keep up with the Jones'."  You go, hubby.

I can see the whole "asking  cute" think for a big deal, last dance type thing, like senior ball.  But to do it all year, every year, for each date dance...  it just gets old.  Maybe just plain asking someone to the dance will become the creative, original, unordinary thing to do after a while.