HomeTeeter Totter ~ Finding a Balance Between Me-Hood and Motherhood
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Make It All Better
I wonder… will there ever be a time in my son’s life when I DON’T want to rush in and make it all better? I can’t imagine it ever being so. He’s 14 ½ now, just starting the 9th grade and I STILL want to rush in and save the day every time. Of course I don’t, I can’t and that would teach him nothing. Instead I must sit on my hands, gauge the situation and what kind of reaction it warrants. Can he handle it himself? Can I just give him pointers of what I think he should do? Or should the Mama Bear come roaring out of her cave and make it all better? Yes, those are usually my three choices. There are some things however that even roaring Mama Bear can’t make go-away. My son asked me the other day “What is it like to talk without stuttering.” My heart sank to my stomach. He’s had a severe stutter that no amount of technology or therapy can help (trust me, we’ve had him in SLP since 3 years of age!) I told him “I think it’s like drinking water. You just do it and don’t think about it. I imagine that stuttering would be really hard and frustrating.” “Oooooh, you have no idea!” He said. He shared that it’s like getting water down the wrong pipe and you can’t stop coughing (spinning off my liquid analogy). I want to make it all better for him. I want to take him to Hogwarts and have Hermione wave her wand and fix it. I want to give him a magic pill and make it all go away. I want the world to be perfect, and kind, and safe for him. Don’t we all? Then I have to stop, put Mama Bear back in her cave, and remember. It’s not just our strengths that make us who we are, but our weaknesses and struggles as well. If we all had everything done and perfect for us, it would totally change the person we are now. I personally adore my son just the way he is. So even though I wish I could make everything “All Better” for him, I know that if I did, he wouldn’t be the same person. So go take a nap mama bear, the little cub is just fine! 5 comments from 4 users
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posted by
cakebread
on Sep 2, 2008 at 02:54 PM
Your articles sometimes when its about your son in some blogs just make me cry I put myself in your shoes while I am reading your blog and can or cant depending on the situation image what its like in his world.I LOVE this article you wrote I feel so bad for him and would feel the same way you described so perfectly in the artcle about my child I got sad when you wrote what your son asked you and I think you responded very well to him as I am sure you do a lot.Great article love your blogs and best wishes to you and your son this school year.
posted by
creatress
on Sep 2, 2008 at 03:41 PM
Awww, how very sweet! Thanks so much for the nice comment. I'm sure a lot of moms can relate (even if it's not about stuttering with your child). There's always something we want to "fix" for them that we just can't. Sorry I made you sad, but I'm glad you liked it!
posted by
teacheroftwos
on Sep 2, 2008 at 08:52 PM
As a mom of a child who has struggled with ADHD since age 3 I sooooo understand your feelings. He is having a hard time with a friend right now and I was trying to be that mama bear that you speak of so well and help him through it, but all in all I think that I need to take your advice and just crawl back into my cave and let him handle it!
posted by
wifemotherdaughtersister
on Sep 3, 2008 at 06:25 AM
if only there was a huge invisible band aid that moms could use in any situation! i can feel your heartbreak about the stuttering, no progress on the speech easy huh?once again my fabulous christian dior mascara is running down my face. that means it's a good one. posted by
creatress
on Sep 3, 2008 at 07:41 AM
Thanks ladies! Here's the Speech Easy website if anyone is wondering what I'm talking about, or is interested in SLP assistive devices.
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