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JUST FORGET IT!!!
I remember once upon a time, a little boy who wouldn’t argue with everything I say. Who would actually look for my approval. Who would WANT to help me out and spend time with me. That child is gone and has been replaced by a lazy, rude, defiant man. Ok, I don’t feel that way ALL the time (yet), but today, I do! He was just arguing with me about EVERYTHING this morning and I got so cranky. It’s always over something stupid too. Me “It’s Huck Finn day and your teacher said everyone HAS to dress up. Here’s a bandana for you and dad’s shirt." Him “I don’t want to wear that. She said a button down shirt is fine.” Me “They didn’t have black jeans back then, at least wear your blue ones.” Him “The blue ones are too hard to get off and on.” Me “That’s because you don’t unzip and unbutton them. HOW LAZY CAN YOU BE!” (Starting to get shrill now) Him “I’m wearing the black ones.” Me “Get the cup and napkin off the table to bring” (They were supposed to bring their own cup for lemonade and a napkin/dish rag as a plate.) Him “I don’t need it! I’ll use a paper towel from the bathrooms and I brought a Vitamin water.” Me “How very Pioneer of you!” YOUR TEACHER SAID TO BRING THEM! I PUT THEM OUT ON THE TABLE FOR YOU! PUT THEM IN YOUR BAG!!!" Him “I DON’T WANT TO! I DON’T NEED THEM!’ Me “FINE! THAT’S JUST FINE!!! I DON’T CARE!!!! GET AN F IN SOCIAL STUDIES THEN!!! I’M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU!!!" I managed to calm down and explain why I was frustrated with him. He said he understood, so I felt a little better. As he got out of the car, he asked me if he had anything on his face. I said “Come here... YES! You have handsome all over” and then I kissed him. He giggled like a five year old and jumped out of the car. I hope to God that those silly moments don’t evaporate completely. They’re what I live for between the bursts of teenage attitude! 12 comments from 7 users
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posted by
AmandaS
on May 30, 2008 at 04:38 PM
What an ordeal. It's nice to know that you have morning trials and tribulations like those of us with little kids. :-) I'm glad he had a little redemption at the end.
posted by
creatress
on May 30, 2008 at 07:03 PM
I'm not sure if it's nice to know I can still relate to you all (for you). Or it's scary for you to know that you will never get a break. It never gets easier, it just changes and becomes different. :) posted by
AmandaS
on May 30, 2008 at 09:44 PM
You are still my hero. Ava turns 4 tomorrow and I can't believe it. Junior high and high school seem like so far away.
posted by
creatress
on May 31, 2008 at 12:54 PM
I know... I used to feel the same way. Mothers of teens would tell me "It goes so fast!" And I would nod my head and pretend like I agreed (when every day felt like a year.) But it really does. Then again, most things do once you hit a certain age I think. Every stage of development has it's own challenges. Teens are for sure no exception to that rule! posted by
rockermom
on May 31, 2008 at 02:11 PM
I still have no idea how my darling daughter got to be 18, employed at two companies, driving a car and not calling me near as much as she used to. Time flies when you having fun, I guess.
posted by
creatress
on May 31, 2008 at 05:30 PM
Hey rockermom! Nice to see you back ya lurker you! posted by
MiaMama
on May 31, 2008 at 08:44 PM
You're such an awesome mom!
posted by
creatress
on Jun 1, 2008 at 04:10 PM
LOL. Thanks MiaMama! You're the sweetest. :) posted by
hmoeckli
on Jun 1, 2008 at 05:09 PM
I feel for ya, Creatress. I often am amazed at how I try to get my students to do "fun" things and they drag their feet the whole time. I have often shouted: "I AM TRYING TO HELP YOU. NOT ME. YOU!" It can be so frustrating. The nice thing is that their moods change quickly. Or it's the not nice thing, depending on the mood, of course. Good luck! posted by
suprizmom
on Jun 1, 2008 at 06:37 PM
I have two grown kids and I have had that seem scene in my house several times.. hahaha.. I love how you handled it, I'm like you in the fact that laughter goes a long way.. I can tell you it will pay off in the end.. my kids now 21 and 19 tell me all the time that is how they have dealt with me all these years.. now if I can just keep it together for my new go around my two year old.. LOL ... hahaha..
posted by
girl4agreenerworld
on Jun 2, 2008 at 10:16 AM
Hey Creatress! I can relate with my 14 year old. I miss the adoration of my child in his younger years when he put me on a pedestal. Now he thinks I know nothing. The years did fly by and now there are only four years left before it is off to college. I look forward to the day when my son realizes that I have some brain cells still left after all. Your handling of the situation with laughter and love at the end was perfect!
posted by
creatress
on Jun 2, 2008 at 11:04 AM
Thanks guys! I LOVE hearing back from some other parents who have been there, or are there with me. It's always so helpful. Thanks suprizmom for sharing about your grown children. It gives me hope that I'll make it. Dad had a little talk with him this weekend. Just like any teen you just never know what you'll get! Though I am thankful that he is so polite with other people and I think more helpful with me than average. After school that day (Friday), I drug him shopping with me and he got a compliment from the checker about being so helpful for me. That made him grin from ear to ear. Yes, laughter cures all! I'll have to remember that and keep working on it.:)
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