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Ok, I'm going to go out on a limb and ask for advice, and I'm hoping the mom in this scenario I'm about to share doesn't read this blog. I'll try to keep it short and concise...

At my daughter's girl scout meeting a few weeks ago, the mom of one of the girls, who I've really only talked to once (the girls also go to the same school, different classes), asked if she could talk to me for a minute. She pulled me aside to let me know that my daughter had hurt her daughter's feelings the week before. She didn't have a lot of specifics, but said that her daughter had come home from school a few days saying my daughter was mean to her.

I told her thanks for the heads up and I would ask my daughter about it. That night, she said the other girl had asked to go to my daughter's birthday party and she told the girl she couldn't talk about her party and she wasn't invited. (I had told her and her brother--they are twins--not to talk about their party because not everyone was invited, so my daugther probably was a little harsh with her). I'm sure it did hurt her feelings, but I'm sure there are parties my kids aren't invited too.

In any case, we had our daughter apologize to the girl and say she was sorry for hurting her feelings. I e-mailed the mom to let her know and she replied with a very long and detailed e-mail about how my daughter told her daughter that she didn't want to hear about the girl's new puppy and that my daughter repeatedly called her new puppy's name stupid.

Ok, my daughter is not an angel...but it is not characteristic of her to be mean to other kids like this. She has a lot of friends, and a lot of other moms tell me how nice she is.I came away from our little e-mail exchange feeling like she was calling my daughter a bully and suspecting that she was telling this to the other moms.

Maybe I don't need advice as much as I just needed to vent. I'm sorry her daughter got her feelings hurt. My daughter apologized. This has happened to my daughter as well and it never even occurred to me to confront the other girl's mother. I mean, if it was an ongoing problem I would, but not a seemingly isolated incident. Am I on track with this thinking or am I off my rocker? Honesty is appreciated.

Well, it happened this weekend....my sweet little seven-year-old officially turned in to a young man. He informed me as we were on the way to the store to get him some underwear that he would like to wear boxers. No more tighty whiteys with SpongeBob or Spider Man on them, he wants grown up boxers! I think I teared up at the vision of him walking around in boxers, just like his dad, and knowing that it wouldn't be too many more years until he really was a young man! It was very sobering...what's next, his twin sister wanting a bra?!

(BTW, he looked very cute in his boxers, and proudly wore them despite the fact that they feel "funny".)