HomeFirst time mom @ 47
Real Name: Rose Gender: female Member Since: July 11, 2008 Last Signed In: August 21, 2008 Blog Views: 118 Send To A Friend Sign Guestbook Add as a Friend
Questions for those who have "been there".
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Questions for those who have "been there".
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Rocklin, CA
Hi Ladies I have some questions for you. Has anyone delivered at Kaiser Morse? Any tips? Were the classes worth the time? At 47, first child, with some chronic health issues, I'm concerned about the physical tole of a vaginal delivery and am interested in an epi...any thoughts? Does it delay/complicate delivery? I am one year post gastric bypass....anyone else gone thru a pregnancy post gastric bypass? Did anyone have "guests" in the delivery and regret it? (Like your mom, in-laws, etc.) Did anyone one's husband end up on the floor? Mine swears he'll pass out! And one last one....when does the "terror" go away? I sincerely thought I was going into menopause...didn't find out I was pregnant until 14 weeks. Now at 21 weeks. We just moved here...know no one...frankly I fight sheer terror on a daily basis. Don't get me wrong...this is a dream come true that I had put to rest years ago...I'm really happy about it...but still fighting the terror. My husband is 40...but admits to only being 6!! It is his first too. We're facing having this baby all on our own. No family/friends in the area. I am estranged from my family, but his dad and step mom live in Fairfield. And we're only just now developing a relationship w/them for the first time in my husband's life. So frankly....we're pretty much on our own. Also, I'm starting a new job in 2 weeks. Any tips on handling a new employer/job while pregnant?
Would appreciate your thoughts, Rose
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posted by
ToscaSac
on Jul 17, 2008 at 03:54 PM
posted by
MiaMama
on Jul 17, 2008 at 09:39 PM
Hey there mom@47! I too was very nervous about the whole delivery thing! I had an epidural and it "saved my life"!My husband and I took all of the classes that Kaiser offered. It never hurts to absorb all the info you can get. Also, he did not pass out like he thought he might! Although I'm very close with my mom, I only had my husband in the delivery room with me. As far as the job goes...I wouldn't even say anything about being pregers for a couple of more months. It really doesn't start getting obvious until about the 5-6 month. That way you get to know your co-workers and boss. You'll know what to do by what feels right for you! Good Luck with everything! It will all work out just fine. PS, if you are planning on breastfeeding I recommend The Breastfeeding Book by Dr. William and Martha Sears. Check out Amazon.com for a good deal. posted by
hmoeckli
on Jul 17, 2008 at 10:21 PM
You got a lot going on lady! And get used to that, cause once you have a baby, the ride gets mighty bumpy. And so much fun. Being a mommy is the best! I totally can relate with what you are feeling. My baby was not planned, but we were so happy, once we got our heads wrapped around the idea. The terror never goes totally away; there are moments when I feel so lost in this new mommy world. And then my daughter does something just for me so I laugh and I'm brought right back to the present. I agree about waiting to tell your work. Don't worry about it. Just do your job. It doesn't concern them yet. Good luck with your new adventure! posted by
wifemotherdaughtersister
on Jul 18, 2008 at 02:57 PM
you will definately find out that you are stronger than you give yourself credit. and we are always here to help you!
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Hiyas!
Wow you are dealing with A LOT! eke heheheheheh
Let's see terror well I think that subsists on the underlevel forever what the heck are we doing having kids it's a crazy endeavor LOL sigh
That being said I was a single mother 20, no partner support, no drivers license, part time job, no car, no formal education, when I had my daughter who will be 12 in the fall.
I delivered her in a hospital, had an epi, and only my mother in the room. A friend of mine wanted to be there I just wasn't comfy with that so didn't call her when the pains came. The father had DEMANDED he be invited. I declined. Only allow those who totally love and support you in. It is your day more than a wedding or any other. You don't need extra stress.
I didn't take any pregnancy or delivery classes I just suffered through the process not knowing any better. These days I would hire a doula or midwife and want to deliver at home.
For all the unknowns I just told myself motherhood was a blessing and I would get through it just like the billions or others who had gone before me. The only hospital advice I can offer is know the policies and procedures and what you are comfortable with. Talk to your doctors etc. try to isolate any wiggle room you want or need.
If you go in blind you are more likely to be run through the mill of hospital procedure that is not always all about the absolute best thing for patients.
Just do it at new job. I just forged ahead making the best plans I could with the information I had in the moment. I was working pt and would get 6wks off so that's how things worked. I eventually became a completely stay at home mom single tho I remained.
Congrats through it all! Send me a private email we can stay in touch. What area are you living in?