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As one once again

As one once again
Regaining custody and being a mom and a step mom
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Patricia Worth
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NoshNBasket - > As one once again -> I beat fear
I beat fear

OK so i do not consider myself a battered ex wife or anything like that but i was very afraid of my ex for many years. You would think that now after winning custody and him in jail my fear would diminish. Nope...

My ex wrote to my children and since I get the mail I read it first. I did it because I need to know what he is telling my children and for me to be ready for the questions and the comments. First let me explain that the concept of joint mailboxes as we have them here are not so popular on the east coast. So he thinks the kids get the mail and I am not reading them.

Ha... I did and will do so until they turn 18. Mother bear speaking here. Hear me rooooar.

Ok so the last two letter have been how I have done this and that ...blah blah... I was upset by all of this cause as always I do not believe the children need to be in the middle and I do not speak of ill of him or of what has been happening.

It took me about a week to get the courage to write the letter that I knew I needed to write him. Mother bear right? Protect the children and fight back.  As I started to write panic set in. My hands started to tremble and a panic attack was coming on. I could feel it. Calm down Patty... he is 3K miles away and the worst that can happen is NOTHING.

I was polite, courteous and to the point. Don't write bad things about me to the children, don't upset the children, write happy thoughts (not sure how he can do that from jail... his problem) and updated him the current situation on the children, signed it, sealed it and mailed right there on the spot before I changed my mind. 

wow... unreal how you can be abused without the physical scars. But I am Mother Bear now and I will ROAR!!!!

Topics: ex, custody, abuse, mom
posted by NoshNBasket on Saturday, April 19, 2008 at 08:03 PM
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posted by hmoeckli on Apr 20, 2008 at 10:06 AM
That was very brave of you to confront your ex. Regardless of his issues with you and vice versa, the children should be protected from that. It really seems that you are doing a great job protecting your children and yourself from future abuse. Way to go mama bear!
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