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Its time to come out of the closet. I know my log-in information is hidden behind the business but behind that facade is a mom and a step mom that has finally won. I was born and raised in Romania and at the age of 11 my parents moved us to NY. I had all the immigrant trials and tribulations. At the age of 17 I met my ex-husband, fell in love, blew off college and we got married 4 years later. That same year I gave birth to my daughter (15 now) and low and behold 3 months later I was pregnant with my son. I knew my husband was a drug user but I was going to make him better. I was going to fix him and when we had our kids things were going to be fine. I was going to be happy! Our marriage lasted 2 years, one bankruptcy, multiple affairs and multiple break ups. 5 months later he came back. I fell for it and we were seeing each other. That lasted about 1 more year sharing him with another woman. i left him for good along with my children one week before Fathers day without his knowledge due to his controlling nature. I move to Florida to be closer to my folks. From there I moved to California to begin a new life and that is when my nightmare began.

I trusted my ex, he had convinced me that he had put his life back together and that he was willing to help me. I fell for it, asked him to watch the kids for 6 months and I moved.

To make a long story short I had lost custody for 9 years. nine long years that I hardly saw my own children. I did help my current husband raise his wonderful boys but the feeling was not the same. I was not Mom I was Patty.

My children have lived with me now for a year and i am sooooo proud of them and what they themselves have gone thru is short of a miracle. And so i will write about our challenges as a family, them as teens, and me as a real mom instead of a 3K mile mom.

One beautiful moment was the other night when I was in the kitchen. The one spot light over the sink was on and my two children were over by the counter and were eating a dessert I made. They were all grown up, tall, smiling and happy.  In walked my husband and was standing behind me when I realized that my dream of ten years had come true. Thank you God.