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Fair-weather Friends
I've been to my daughter (as I've been with my blogging on SMC) a fair-weather friend. I've been noticing so many improvements in her behavior within the past month. Not only does she not poo in her pants AT ALL, she also runs to the big toilet, hops up by herself, does her business and even does a decent job wiping herself. She's not whining as much, or hitting or kicking or pinching. However, I've noticed that when she DOES do any of the negative things now, I seem to have even less patience for it than before. I'm the first to admit that I'm not a patient person AT ALL. I'm not an angry person, rather an easily frustrated one. I once wrote a friend of mine who's into crystal healing and asked her if there was a miracle stone for patience. She told me to wear amber for a week and see if it helped. I did, and at the end of the week, I was still, so at my wit's end with my daughter's behavior that I took off the ring and threw it at her. I'm totally kidding! Here she is now, having made so many great strides and it's almost as if I'm disappointed in her when she does have minor regressions. How fair is that? I'm still trying to become more patient. It's all about letting go of expectations and taking deep breaths and counting to ten and remembering your happy place and... 2 comments from 2 users
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posted by
creatress
on Feb 28, 2008 at 07:36 AM
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BONBON
on Feb 28, 2008 at 10:42 PM
I totally get how you feel! I am sure you are doing a great job mom:)Caine speaks very well so I sometimes have to stop and remind myself he's only three.
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I think there's a big difference between patience and tolerance. There's no reason you should tolerate your daughter hitting you, kicking, punching and screaming in your ear (unless there's a physical or mental reason, which in your case, I know there isn't). You are VERY VERY VERY patient!!! Did I mention VERY patient? I think most mothers of little ones under 5 are.
On a happy side, I'm SOOO glad to hear that she's improving! All you can do is your best. No one is perfect (including us moms), so look at all you have done and do right for her. Without your patience, she'd still be doing everything she shouldn't all the time.