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#1 07/16/2009 10:44:30am

LoriA
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Registered: 03/20/2009
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When do they need a fig leaf?

My 8 year old son would prefer to be naked 100% of the time. This is fine at home, most of the time, but when guests visit or when he visits friends' homes, it's a different story.

A New York Times article, "When do they need a fig leaf?" explores perspectives on children's nudity. Read it here:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/16/garde … ty.html?em

What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you allow your kids to be naked whenever they like, under certain circumstances, or never? Do other people's opinions influence your decisions? Let's chat!

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#2 07/16/2009 4:45:33pm

creatress
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Registered: 09/12/2007
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Re: When do they need a fig leaf?

That's a really interesting topic. For us, it just kindove happened. I think around 8 or so was when he just prefered to wear something around us and vice-versa. We're a pretty open family and in-tune with each other really well. It was a very organic transition.

Now of course he'd scream bloody murder if he caught me nude (or in a bra for that matter.)

I think if I were in your shoes Lori I'd just talk about how there's a time and place for everything. That you respect his body and think it's great that he's comfortable around you and agree that it just feels good to be naked... HOWEVER, our privates are... PRIVATE and for us to enjoy alone. That when people come over he needs to cover up. It's just the way our culture is.

Then you could take him to the library and get some books on other cultures and clothing for him to see. You could also get some great books for younger kids on puberty, changing bodies and nudity. There's some really wonderful ones out and they helped my son to understand such complex things really well.

Great topic! smile

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#3 09/20/2009 7:11:36pm

Margaret78
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Registered: 09/02/2008
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Re: When do they need a fig leaf?

My 6yo started wanting to keep clothing on about a year ago. My 3yo can go back and forth between being clothed and not. I am very matter-of-fact with them. "We are going to the store, you need to have clothes on." "We are having family/friends over, you need to have clothes on." When they asked about it, I just replied that not everyone wanted to see their butt. It became a funny thing and we all moved on.

peace...
Margaret

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