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#1 08/22/2008 12:10:03am

Reedsmom
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Registered: 08/21/2008
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I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

I feel soooooo I don't know led astray, so left in the dark. Why didn't my sister, my mom, or one of the women I know that have children pull me aside when I was pregnant and say hey just to let ya know after you give birth you can kiss your great sex life away, oh and you can almost count on having hemroids the rest of your life! I gave birth to my son who wasn't thrilled to say the least about vacating his warm little home. He was ten days overdue and was forced out by way of potocin. I tore very badly and the recovery time was very looooooooong. I didn't have sex with my husband until our son was three months. Then because it hurt me so bad we didn't do it again for another month, then another month, and another. It went on like that until my son was ten months old, then finally it felt ok. My poor husband said " I don't think a married man is supposed to **** this much." I agreed, I felt so bad for him. Now we are up to one to two times a week but our son keeps us busy so usually at night we both are more interested in sleep than sex. What should we do to rekindle our days of having sex like bunnies newlywed orgasm filled awww greatness? Any suggestions?

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#2 08/22/2008 12:44:24am

Reedsmom
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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

Just to let you know the auto edit made my husband's comment look like an f word but it's not, i guess you can't type the other word for choke the chicken on here. lol.

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#3 08/22/2008 8:53:03am

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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

It sounds like you had a very bad OB when you delivered. They should have been monitoring you more closely to make sure you didn't tear like that.
Since there's nothing you can do about that now... I would talk to your ob (hopefully not the same one who let you rip) if you're still having any kind of pain or discomfort.

If you're just concerned about lack of time or interest now days, join the club. I find it helpful to THINK about being intimate a lot, before we're actually together. With women, sex is 80% mental (unlike men who are 100% physical)... not real stats here, just making a point. If you THINK yourself in the mood, you WILL be in the mood. A few Kegel exercises doesn't hurt either.

I would talk to a dr about hemorrhoids though. You shouldn't still be having that problem.

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#4 08/22/2008 7:18:59pm

ndeg21
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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

If you would like send me ur addy and I will send you some samples, that might help spice up the room a bit:) I know my husband had to add edibles and what not to get me into the mood... 

My email is ndeg21@yahoo.com

FYI I am a Passion Party Consultant, so I will be sending you good samples:D

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#5 08/23/2008 10:18:21am

misssy
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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

ah, sounds like your delivery was a little tought. I just push out number two I didnt tear either time. I also didnt get hemmoroids. Maybe you can look  into differnt pushing meathods  for fueture deliveries, a very close friend of mine had her baby and the doctor just kept telling her to push, even when it was not time. She tore so bad she had to get some sort of massages down there for a while. And didnt touch her dh  for almost a year after she had her dd. With my first pregnancy I had a doctor that told me when to push and when to stop and I listened. Id look into a differnt doctor for next time. This time my nurse kept yelling at me to push( I think that eevil women wanted me to tear) but my mom was like dont do it until its time. I listened both times and I never tore. about fine time for sex, ha, welcome to the club. You got to make time. You have one baby, I have two and girl you got to just work it out, we would just wait until our baby was asleep. Now we have to to wait for both, and were twice as tired. I dont knwo how old your child is, but eventually it all gets so much easier. I dont know about newlywed sex anymore, life just changes but if you get creative you can still have lots of fun.

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#6 02/22/2009 7:55:23am

scott20015
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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

Reedsmom:
Maybe you should send the hubby to my website.  I don't want to sound like an advertisement, but there really are a lot of great tips for him there.  We cover topics he'll enjoy (weird sports, tools, etc) and sneak in stuff that will help you (sex tips 101) as well as there are advice columns he could ask a question to in a more manly setting than most are so he'd feel more comfortable.

We update every week with all new articles and columns, so there'd always be something new for him to learn!  : )

The site is: http://romancechallenged.com

- Scott

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#7 07/31/2009 10:31:13am

HanNicole
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Re: I gained a beautiful son and lost a great sex life!

That problem sounds so familiar. What we tried were some of those sextoys for couples and that helped at least a little bit. I think all it needs is time and understanding and the rest will come.

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